Trying to have a happy holiday season is no easy task.
As an immigrant, most of my family is across an ocean. My parents passed away and my only sister is half way across this country. Here I have my husband and son, and he has 2 sisters that live fairly close, less than an hour away, and they have children and grandchildren. A sister lives with his Mom and acts as her caretaker.
My need is to provide a happy, festive day for anyone that wants to be a part. But what do you do when you have everything planned, even days off work to take care of it all and those that are supposed to come, last minute change plans, and ask me to do it the day before or after. Um, this is now a gift exchange because my family is not going to sit on Christmas to celebrate around your schedule.
Why is the happiest time of the year filled with stress, sadness, and selfishness? I have been so hurt by the selfishness of others that I am now having symptoms of illness without actually being sick. My whole digestive tract is tore up and all I taste is acid. As a person that doesn’t get sick and never experiences digestive disturbances, this is completely debilitating. Sadly, I just want Christmas to be over. And I am sure I am not the only one that feels this way. But I need to get over it. Some people; family and not, do not think outside of their own little boxes. They won’t do for themselves, they sit and wait for others to tend to things, and they will not change. This is how it is, I need to get over it and stop letting it take a toll on my mind, body, and spirit.
I hope this reaches one person, either like them or like me.
So what I ask of you today is to run through your head what comes out of your mouth before it does. Do you have the ‘right’ words? And remember text messages that have one meaning in word emphasis when you read it, may have a completely different emphasis and meaning when the recipient reads it.
Consider the feelings and possible situation of others. The holidays are a hard time for many. Don’t make it all about giving and receiving tangible gifts. Remember peace, love, and joy.
If you are like me, get over it. Don’t let it take the good out of you. Don’t let their toxicness poison you. Don’t give in to their needs. Make your own memories. And have a very Merry Christmas!
Today I will be diffusing something uplifting.