It’s here, the happiest month of the year. December, a month where family and friends get together and share happy moments, socialize, exchange gifts, and ‘be merry.’
While this may be true for some, it definitely is not true for all. There may be a bump in the road like: your friends have this type of family. So while they do the family gatherings, the friend gatherings are not their thing. Then your family either doesn’t exist (due to location, never existed, or has passed) or has a different idea of ‘family.’
It can be hard on those of us that long for those picture perfect happy holidays. And even though we try and try to make things special for others, it will put you in a bad place when your hard work is not even slightly appreciated. Add to it our own demons of work stress, money stress, winter blues, loneliness, missing loved ones, etc. etc., it can make for a really hard Christmas.
This is a number one time to find your own control. Take charge of your own life. Do what makes you and those immediately close to you happy. Pull out an aromatherapy diffuser. Add some holiday type oils like cinnamon, pine, sweet orange, frankincense, and/or peppermint. Take a few deep breaths of that holiday aroma, eat a candy cane (or at least it’s a good excuse for one, I love the little ones), turn on the twinkle lights of the Christmas tree, a make a list of your holiday favorites, your holiday traditions. Start working through your list of things to make your holiday happy. If others benefit from your wants, then yeah. If not, oh well. Some of my list includes: lots of holiday decorations, a bowl of the small candy canes, finding a gift for my wonderful husband, watching the local parade on tv (not out in the cold) with a cup of cocoa with marshmallows and whipped cream. I’m going to make a list of Christmas foods I love to make and enjoy, and I will gather donations for a local event. I will make my lovely products and share them with those I choose.
But most importantly, I will not let the greed nor the selfishness of others send my sad and lonely feelings to the surface. I am going to take control of my December, my holiday season, and my happiness today.
Welcome to December, the last month of 2014 to take charge and make good things happen.